My Dreams, Then the Marriage, Then the Kids

Yes, you read that right. I love my kids, but they are 3rd place—they take the bronze in my household. You see, if your priorities are screwed up, your household and your life will be screwed up. If you don’t put your dreams first, you are doing your family and yourself a disservice. Always putting others first is a horrible idea because you can’t take care of others if you don’t first take care of yourself.

Make no mistake about it, I am committed to making time for my family. I’m committed to my dreams at 100%, my marriage at 100%, and my kids at 100%. I’m not telling you to go half-way with your spouse or your kids. Do that and you will end up divorced and your kids will end up resenting you.

But don’t let your dreams ever take a back seat to anything. I told my wife Elena when we got married that I’d do anything for her, but I would never give up on my dreams. The truth is, you shouldn’t be with someone who would want you to give up on your dreams.

Your dreams are a part of you.

Give up on them and you give up on yourself. If you give up on your dreams I guarantee you that you will give up on anything else—including your marriage.

Somewhere along the line you may have got advice from people who have told you to settle for something less. To go for something more stable and realistic, right? Even if you find yourself settling, have you really stopped dreaming? You still dream, it’s a part of human nature.

So why not use your dreams to achieve something big? I still have dreams of things that I want to be done. This is why I work so hard to make those dreams come true. I don’t think about just getting by, or just trying to be steady and “secure.” I aim for something bigger. I aim for my dreams.

You have to start thinking bigger. Your dreams are worth it—and you are worth it. You have to think, with every client presentation, with every phone call, with every email, with every breath of air that you take, “How is this helping me achieve my dreams?”

When I was first starting my business, I cut out pictures of where I wanted to live and looked at those pictures every day. The reason I did this was that it reminded me every single minute what I was working for.

Visualization is powerful. It makes your goals real. You no longer say you want to have a nice house, but rather you get to say, “I want that house, with this many rooms, on this street.” Start putting pictures of what you want in your life.

Take care of your spouse and kids, but please, take care of your dreams.

I promise you, if you take care of your dreams, your spouse and kids will be happier. I want to help make your dreams come to reality. Let’s face it, all dreams cost money. The bigger the dream, the bigger the money needed. Take advantage today of my Business Builder Package and I’ll give you a free ticket to my upcoming 10XGrowthCon 2018.

Be great,



Grant Cardone is a New York Times bestselling author, the #1 sales trainer in the world, and an internationally renowned speaker on leadership, real estate investing, entrepreneurship, social media, and finance. His 5 privately held companies have annual revenues exceeding $100 million. Forbes named Mr. Cardone #1 of the “25 Marketing Influencers to Watch in 2017”. Grant’s straight-shooting viewpoints on the economy, the middle class, and business have made him a valuable resource for media seeking commentary and insights on real topics that matter. He regularly appears on Fox News, Fox Business, CNBC, and MSNBC, and writes for Forbes, Success Magazine, Business Insider,, and the Huffington Post. He urges his followers and clients to make success their duty, responsibility, and obligation. He currently resides in South Florida with his wife and two daughters.

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  • Philip Mack

    I am committed to making the last half of my life a success like ive never succeeded. i AM COMMITTED TO BEING FINANCIALLY SUCCURE and i am committed to doing the things in life i love. I am committed to paying back all the people thats been so good to me. Not bc i owe them but bc i want them to feel good about the help and time they invested in me.I am committed to hearing possitive wordsa spoken about me. I am committed to doing and giving 100 percent to my employer, and carrying it thru to when i work foir my self. I am commited to leave behind some people rthat have to admit that i had the internal fortitude to succeded, inspite of all i faced in this ole world. I am committed to repay Cordone fpor all these training corses. to pay him in in paises spokewn by others for hisa commitment being contafggiuos.
    My commitment is to me and to Succeeing.

  • Peter

    I completely agree with Grant’s hierarchy of priorities with the exception of first place. Over the years, I’ve discovered that “my dreams” are not always in alignment with what God has for me and His will for me is far better than anything I can dream up. So, God first, wife 2nd, kids 3rd, work 4th, etc. You see when God is first, everything else falls into place the right way. Yes, He does want to give us the desires of our hearts, as long as they are in alignment with His.

    Dream and push hard — 100%….but the “real” fruit of our harvest is our gifts/talents. Grant has the gift of teaching, motivating and encouraging and those are priceless! So commit to succeed in what you are destined to do. What am I destined to do? Ask God with an open heart and He will tell you. In the meantime, listen and follow Grant he’s a great example of family, success and DRIVE for LIFE!!

    Thank you, Grant, for all you do!

  • David J Rossi

    This cat should right the new “bible” on success, motivation,lifestyle management, and how to achieve your dreams. I follow and recommend him every day of my life! God bless

  • Prem Paudel

    You’re such an inspiration GC !

  • Arturo Rosales

    Total agreed with Grant my dreams first

  • brian

    great help as always. thank you so much.

  • Lydia

    Very valuable. So many insights right there.
    Thank you sir.

  • Lydia

    Very valuable. So many insights right there.
    Thank you sir.

  • Carrie Marino

    I have not lived with these priorities in the past. I saw the destruction of placing kids and spouse and parents and friends before myself. I experienced the fear of losing my voice to the service of others. That’s a lie. It’s not service. It’s self-imposed slavery. It’s weak. It’s ill. It’s an indication of poverty of the most horrific sort. We are each created for a unique purpose and God calls us toward that purpose, even before it can be seen clearly. Along the way, while pursuing the greatest dreams we can imagine, we encounter ideas which supercharge our focus, faith, and commitment to our highest personal truth—our holy mission. Encouragement. God’s treasures. It wasn’t until I was presented with an idea which would resolve my financial poverty that I realized my marriage (future) comes even before my son, as a single mother. During this difficult time, a guiding premise behind my decisions has been, “I have to do what serves the greatest good for the greatest number of people.” I agree wholeheartedly with Grant that it begins with personal integrity, then solid partnership, which the affords the supports our children crave. We cannot serve other states by playing small. We must have the courage to pursue radical solutions for ourselves, our marriages, our children…because the world we all share is bleeding for our attention. While our problems stay small, the cancers of earth flourish. It’s our duty to get in the game. Make big plays. Be sold on you. Get your priorities online. Serve our planet. We need to be available to our own true thoughts to empower the thoughts of the future. Being selfish is the least selfish thing you can do because the beautiful things is, all truths lead to God. Follow yours, you’ll find Him, and all else will be added unto you. I’m grateful for Grant’s courage and influence in the world. Together, we can create the world God planned for us to live in when he first cast His vision for his children. It always starts with One. But can never be achieved alone. It’s simply God’s plan. And God’s beauty is beyond boundaries of concept. He always offers more life. Are we leaving cash on the floor or investing in our holy mission? Our Truth.

  • Crystal D Blasius

    I felt this when I was a new spouse and mother. I fought what I thought I should have been and gave up myself for their sake. Are they better for it? Looking back and looking at now, I think they are worse off for what I allowed to happen to my dreams. They now struggle to pursue anything with passion or urgency. They’ve learned to let things get in there way.

  • Joseph Monsen

    Love it make all three important with the dream as the vehicle to get you what you and your family want/need.

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