My Dreams, Then the Marriage, Then the Kids

Yes, you read that right. I love my kids, but they are 3rd place—they take the bronze in my household. You see, if your priorities are screwed up, your household and your life will be screwed up. If you don’t put your dreams first, you are doing your family and yourself a disservice. Always putting others first is a horrible idea because you can’t take care of others if you don’t first take care of yourself.

Make no mistake about it, I am committed to making time for my family. I’m committed to my dreams at 100%, my marriage at 100%, and my kids at 100%. I’m not telling you to go half-way with your spouse or your kids. Do that and you will end up divorced and your kids will end up resenting you.

But don’t let your dreams ever take a back seat to anything. I told my wife Elena when we got married that I’d do anything for her, but I would never give up on my dreams. The truth is, you shouldn’t be with someone who would want you to give up on your dreams.

Your dreams are a part of you.

Give up on them and you give up on yourself. If you give up on your dreams I guarantee you that you will give up on anything else—including your marriage.

Somewhere along the line you may have got advice from people who have told you to settle for something less. To go for something more stable and realistic, right? Even if you find yourself settling, have you really stopped dreaming? You still dream, it’s a part of human nature.

So why not use your dreams to achieve something big? I still have dreams of things that I want to be done. This is why I work so hard to make those dreams come true. I don’t think about just getting by, or just trying to be steady and “secure.” I aim for something bigger. I aim for my dreams.

You have to start thinking bigger. Your dreams are worth it—and you are worth it. You have to think, with every client presentation, with every phone call, with every email, with every breath of air that you take, “How is this helping me achieve my dreams?”

When I was first starting my business, I cut out pictures of where I wanted to live and looked at those pictures every day. The reason I did this was that it reminded me every single minute what I was working for.

Visualization is powerful. It makes your goals real. You no longer say you want to have a nice house, but rather you get to say, “I want that house, with this many rooms, on this street.” Start putting pictures of what you want in your life.

Take care of your spouse and kids, but please, take care of your dreams.

I promise you, if you take care of your dreams, your spouse and kids will be happier. I want to help make your dreams come to reality. Let’s face it, all dreams cost money. The bigger the dream, the bigger the money needed. Take advantage today of my Business Builder Package and I’ll give you a free ticket to my upcoming 10XGrowthCon 2018.

Be great,



Grant Cardone is a New York Times bestselling author, the #1 sales trainer in the world, and an internationally renowned speaker on leadership, real estate investing, entrepreneurship, social media, and finance. His 5 privately held companies have annual revenues exceeding $100 million. Forbes named Mr. Cardone #1 of the “25 Marketing Influencers to Watch in 2017”. Grant’s straight-shooting viewpoints on the economy, the middle class, and business have made him a valuable resource for media seeking commentary and insights on real topics that matter. He regularly appears on Fox News, Fox Business, CNBC, and MSNBC, and writes for Forbes, Success Magazine, Business Insider,, and the Huffington Post. He urges his followers and clients to make success their duty, responsibility, and obligation. He currently resides in South Florida with his wife and two daughters.

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