How to Be Happy

February 24, 2012

At the end of the day people want to be happy, more than anything else. This has been a driving force of Man for thousands of years. You want to be happy in your work, your family, your community, your free time and in all your activities. You want more happiness in your life. I have never understood the point of the phrase: “money won't make you happy”, because not having money won't make you happy either. The reality is nothing can make you happy if you never decide to be happy. In addition, there is a big difference between being happy and feeling good. I believe most people are going for feeling good in the moment as a distraction rather than achieving true, lasting happiness. Here are 3 tips to make you happier with a kicker at the end: 1. You are Responsible for your happiness No one is responsible to create this for you but you. Not your kids, your spouse, your employer, your customers, the economy and certainly not the government. You are happy to the degree you take responsibility for your happiness. You decide to create happiness for yourself. 2. Dedicate Yourself to Being Great You will find happiness in areas where you are GREAT: Dedicate yourself to the development of your natural talents and abilities by doing what you love to do, and doing it better and better in the service of a cause that is greater than yourself. I assure you when you have more confidence and create more success, you will experience an increase in happiness. Being happy requires that you define your life in your own terms and then throw your whole heart into living your life to the fullest. Most people are not happy because they are only spectators, not committed players. 3. Difference between Happiness and Feeling Good When I started focusing on doing the things that made me happy, it not only made me feel good, but also made my happiness increase. Most people just go through life complaining that they are not happy and, instead, look to things that make them feel good temporarily or provide an escape from their daily struggles. As a younger man, I was always doing what made me feel good for a moment but unhappy for any longer duration of time. It was, merely, a distraction and diversion, a waste of time. Know the difference, and know what makes you truly happy. Additional Happiness Kicker: Take any area of your life and measure your happiness in that area on a scale from 1-100. Marriage, finances, business, income, kids, spiritual, physical, etc. Rate each one. You will probably agree that you don't need to have a100 to be happy; 90 and above is good for me. Any time you are struggling in some area of your life, stop and ask yourself; where am I on a scale from 1- 100? If your response is below 90, then ask yourself, what can you do to increase your happiness in that area to over 90 and do it. I assure you that when you increase responsibility, get better at whatever you are doing and focus on the happiness and how to increase it you will! BE HAPPY.

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