By the time you read this I will have moved from my home in Los Angeles to a new place in Miami. That house was more than a dream home to me. I originally bought the house to impress the woman that I am now married to. In fact, we got married in that house and both of my beautiful daughters were born in that house (literally).
I grew my company in the house, starting with two employees to now having a full staff in one of the best offices in Beverly Hills. I have had countless family members, friends, and clients spend time with me in that house.
So why would I leave all that behind to move to a new town? Definitely for the new opportunities that Miami presented to me, but in part because moving scared me. If you follow me on Facebook, I have made no secret about my insecurities and fears about moving.
I actually released a Grant Rant and a blog earlier this week about fears and insecurities and I was blown away by the amount of people from all over the world who were sharing their stories about their fears and insecurities. Times where they were scared, times that they faced their fears and everything in between.
Now this might seem more like “personal life advice” but the truth is, if you aren’t able to over come your fears in life and in business you will never reach your true potential. You will always be stuck making decisions that paralyze you. So that’s why I am putting my tips of of handling insecurities as my Strategy of the Week.
Realize that fear does one thing and one thing only. It stops you from doing anything. I have said time and time again that massive action is the only way to achieve success.
Here’s what you need to do to get over fear and insecurity:
1. Realize that everyone has fear. EVERYONE. You don’t have some special rare disease that causes you and you alone to be plagued by doubt. So get over yourself.
2. Fill your calendar. Make yourself so busy that you don’t have time for fear. Fear thrives on that time you give it to think about what scares you. If you don’t give it any time at all, it will starve.
3. USE your fear. Whenever something scares you, do it. Move towards it. Fear is a challenge that allows you to grow. That client you’ve been dreading to call? Call them now.
4. GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE! There are way too many people in this world who convince themselves that they’re “comfortable” or “satisfied” This needs to stop. Growth can only happen when you challenge yourself. Think about when you were learning to drive. Remember the first time you were getting on the freeway? Maybe it’s just Los Angeles that has scary freeways, but more than likely you were terrified. There were a ton of cars, cars changing lanes all around you, but when you got off you were a better driver. You learned that you could survive. That’s why you need to get out of your comfort zone. It allows you to experience challenges and gain the confidence that comes from overcoming challenges.
5. Repeat this cycle on a 10X scale. In my book The 10X Rule, I talk about how you have to do everything ten times more than you thought it would take. That’s what you need to do to over come all your fears.
So here’s what I suggest for the next month. Make a list with the following categories:
Write down all your fears under each category. Take a moment to look at those fears actually written out. Now get to work crossing those fears off your list. Start small if it helps. Start with just one every day. Or if you’re feeling ambitious, work on one in each category a day. By the end of the month, you will be a completely new person on your way to achieving success that even you didn’t think was possible.
Wishing you guys the best of luck from the East Coast!